Wednesday, May 23, 2012

A Suitable Helper

If you are a married woman, you have the same job description as all married women, you are your husband's helper. With EVERY decision you make you must ask yourself, does this help my husband? If you don't know if a decision helps your husband, ask him. He will know.

Wives, in the light of God's instruction book, we must ask ourselves hard questions on a regular basis.

Do I care for my home in a way that helps my husband?
Do I manage my time in a way that helps my husband or serves my own agenda?
Does the way I serve others support my husband or my selfish ambition?  ( this is a tough one)
Do I ask for my husband's input before committing myself to a plan?
Am I oriented to him and the work to which God has called him?
Do I listen to my husband?
Am I allowing my husband to lead or do I have a better plan?  (Eve had a better plan)
Do I have a quiet and gentle spirit or do I sound like a clanging symbol?
Do I respect my husband when he makes a decision I don't agree with, knowing that the decision is ultimately from God who put our husbands as leaders in our homes?
Do I submit to my husband as to the Lord?
Do I respect my husband just because God tells me to, realizing that he doesn't have to earn my respect? I must respect him because God has commanded me to.

We as Biblical women need to ask these questions on a regular basis? As women we know we can get anything we want. We know that our men want to please us. We must be very, very careful when we assume we know what is best and manipulate the situation to get our way. We need to ask the Holy Spirit to illuminate our hearts and illuminate our minds and show us if there are evil or impure motives. Since the fall, one of the curses is our desire to rule over the men in our life. We are not the spiritual leaders in our homes, our husbands are. We must be very, very careful.

Proverbs 31:12 states: She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. Do you?

I must confess that I have not always done good to my husband. Many years I spent undermining my husband's authority and leadership in our home. But, my Good and Gracious Savoir,  gently and lovingly exposed my sin to me. And now my heart's desire is "to do him good not evil all the days of my life."

The only way we can live out proverbs 31:12 is with Ephesians 5:18, "And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit". We must daily confess our sins and ask God to fill us with His Holy Spirit so we will not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

All to Him I Owe,



  1. wonderful post! It's sometimes too easy to forget we're suppose to be the helper and not the! I know it's a struggle for many ladies, including myself at times. I would love if you would share it at my Feminine Friday link-up, I know my readers will benefit from it!


  2. Thank you for all the hard questions!

  3. Thanks for participating in Feminine Friday for 05/25/2012! I hope you'll come back and join us this Friday!

    Susan Godfrey